8th Anniversary GiveAway!

Dayana Zahari | Saturday, November 21, 2015 | 5Comments |

Another giveaway entry.
Winners will be announced on the 30th November!

November Snow

Dayana Zahari | Saturday, November 21, 2015 | 1Comments |
Probably I should write more down since it's my final year of undergraduate studies here in Warwick.

Around 7PM today


Nothing is unusual about today, it's just snow has come early, and the temperature is suddenly 3 degrees. I have the Istanbul weather on my phone too. Alhamdulillah for them it's 19 degrees at the moment. I'm only monitoring so that I would know which jacket to bring. Well, they are big and heavy. 

Black Friday is coming!

Dayana Zahari | Tuesday, November 17, 2015 | 1Comments |
The name sounds rather scary, Black Friday.


However, it is actually referring to a Friday, where all the prices in the shops DROP.
The tradition started in the US, and now has come to the UK. Shops and online stores will have sales starting from the week before that Friday until the Monday after (called Cyber Monday).
This year, Black Friday falls on 27th November 2015. I'll be looking for a jacket for this autumn-winter transition period.

I hope some sort of Black Friday will arrive in Malaysia too because it's really when businesses gain more from volume rather than big profit margins, and when consumers get the chance to buy what they've been longing for!

How to build self-esteem?

Dayana Zahari | Saturday, November 14, 2015 | 2Comments |
I am taking today for granted because I have Monday off. So I'm cleaning the room and found some tips on how to increase self-esteem, and jotting them down on here.
Many people battle with negative thoughts and low self-esteem, including myself sometimes
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So hopefully these tips will help me and you guys out there :)

Building self-esteem might be difficult, but with these techniques, you can slowly grow out of your comfort zone.

1. Do something you enjoy
Do something you're good at to increase your confidence, this can be paid work, a hobby or volunteering.

Volunteering as Warwick Volunteers in the Bake it up! Project.

2. Build positive relationships
Associate yourself with people who will not criticise you, and who you feel able to talk about your feelings. If you spend time around positive and supportive people, you are more likely to have a better self-image and feel more confident. I personally see this in western style parenting, where parents encourage their children a lot, talk to them like adults, and in turn, they mature and develop their vocabulary and self-confidence really quick. Even in university, after doing class presentations, no matter how it went, my team mates would always say we did great. Now imagine if I was back home, I can imagine the team going, "We did so bad... We could have done better..."

Warwick Islamic Society Poets, 2014. We got into the Warwick Diversity Calendar!

3. Learn to be assertive
Being assertive means you value yourself and others, and can communicate with mutual respect.
- Pay attention to your body language as well as to the words you say, be open and confident.
- Express feelings if you have been upset, wait until you feel calm and explain clearly how you feel.
- Learn to say no to unreasonable requests
- Tell people if you need support in completing a task

Charity Week volunteering - helping orphans and needy children, one of my platform in creating self-worth


4. Look after your physical health
Being healthy helps make you feel happier and improve your self-image. Physical activity releases endorphins - the feel good hormones. Lack of sleep too can cause you to become less confident.
Eat a well-balanced diet, at regular meal-times with plenty of water and vegetables will make you feel healthier and happier.

5. Set realistic goals - challenge yourself!
You will feel satisfied and proud of yourself when you achieve your goal and will feel more positive about yourself!

6. Focus on positive things
List positive things about yourself, things that you have, that you've achieved, things that you do.
Focus on your strength.

What can friends and family do to help?

If you have a family member or a friend that has low self-esteem, you can:

1. Show them that you care about them - listen to them, spend time with them.

Family Europe Trip back in Spring 2015

2. Remind them of positive things - you can't change someone's perception of themselves, but you can remind them of their good qualities.

3. Avoid blame - Don't let people with self-esteem blame themselves for something that has happened. Tell them that it is not their fault.

4. Be patient - self-esteem takes time to build up, they need reassurance.

5. It is okay to feel bad at times - nobody feels happy and confident all the time, but tell them don't be under pressure to live up to unrealistic expectations.

Friends that you can trust.
The above is from Mind, the mental health charity for England and Wales.
If you do feel like you need professional support, please do visit www.mind.org.uk.

Already half of the first term!

Dayana Zahari | Wednesday, November 11, 2015 | 3Comments |
Week 5 was last week, so I have 5 more weeks to go to end this Autumn term. Believe it or not, my heart is already in Istanbul.

Last Saturday I helped out at the Scarman House kitchen for Warwick Conferences. It was my first time entering a big restaurant kitchen, like the ones you see on cooking shows like Masterchef.
From this website.


I was just helping out packing lunch. Adding into a paper bag a sandwich, one fruit, a cereal bar, a bottle of water and one pasta pot. How healthy, I know.

From this website: http://alcalde.texasexes.org/

The kitchen smelled really good. Despite being big, it wasn't very busy, not like in Masterchef. There were a few chefs, people in charge of doing the dessert, there were kitchen porters, but nope, nobody was screaming.

I spent about 4.15 hours packing 200 pack lunches with a new friend from Spain, with the chance to smell good food and to eye on good desserts in their -19 degree celsius fridge! Time well spent alhamdulillah. 

Hope to get more opportunities like this to earn extra cash! 

Hardship comes when He loves you

Dayana Zahari | Tuesday, November 03, 2015 | 1Comments |
Betul lah, kesusahan tu datang bila kita dah manifest yang kita nak buat something untuk Allah.
Well, kesusahan tu datang untuk uji kita pun.
To make us steadfast.
Nak tapis, siapa yang betul-betul beriman.

Hakikatnya, kesusahan tu juga yang bawa kita lebih dekat kepada Dia.
Sebab bila manusia bahagia sepenuhnya, maka ia lupa, takde apa perlu nak minta tolong kan?
Tapi bila susah, ada alasan untuk kita bangun tahajjud, minta tolong, menangis dalam sujud.
Kesusahan ni tanda Dia sayang kita. Peluang untuk kembali dekat denganNya.

Life is full of colours and emotions, maka betul lah, pursuit of happiness tu pursuit yang paling rendah sekali kalau ikut Ustaz Nouman.
Kejarlah pursuit of impact and truth tu.
 
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